Don’t die for them… make sure you were willing to die with or without them.  Success attracts the unsuccessful and the cowardice. If you don’t watch your ego someone will elevate you high enough to take a bullet to the head. Really pay attention to why people are asking you to lead them because it’s just a unnatural proposition for most people. If you aren’t walking that way in the first place then don’t take what they’re offering. When a person sets you up for a fall and you’re strong enough to survive you still don’t win. There is no alliance between a person who manipulates you so they won’t take a fall.