It’s one thing to imagine being in someone else’s position its a whole other to advise how to use their gifts. It’s always has been funny/irritating to me how people who haven’t done what you do somehow have advice on how to do what you do even better. Sure you can say they are just trying to be helpful but, if you don’t do it then they go down the road of hate. If I Were You comes from a dark place that’s embedded in jealousy and resentment. That place is where cowards go and curse the gods on how you just seem to waste what they would’ve died to have.
Beware, that phrase isn’t helpful it’s a warning sign.