Made Men
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A lot of people wonder why I speak up or talk the way I want to in most situations. They think it has to do with me growing up in Compton. They think it has to do with my degrees that I attained. They even think it’s because of the money I have. But, they all are wrong. The main reason behind my overall attitude of take it or leave it is because I made ME, they didn’t make me.
The only people I owe in this life have my same last name and everyone outside of that is a mawfvcking lie. I’m the only one who pushed myself to this point. I’m the one who started the business. I’m the one who took the chances. I’m the one who sacrificed and slept on floors. I’m the one who drove across country. I’m the one who bet it all and said fvck it. I didn’t get any scholarships, no handouts, no sponsorship no cosigns as it was all me determination, grit and grind. I don’t look back and worry about some motherfvcker rising up from my past that can say I owe him. In fact you’ll probably find more people who will say he never asked for help from anyone. White Jesus didn’t inspire me nor was his lost preachers the reason for me. I’m the one who stayed up and continues to stay up to create what I think is a good business or a good idea. I’m the guy who wrote that book there were no ghostwriters.
So since I know and will always know that I don’t need anyone to accomplish my goals I can never owe anyone. Not nare mawfvkcer will ever be able to take one cinder block of my empire and put their name on it. No networking event, no official introduction, no special bending of the rules not even a dollar loaned to me in my past was the catalyst that made me. I took what I had and built myself with damn near no help and no guidance. I learned all that I share on the R&G by constantly looking for a way to make a way not looking for a mawfvcker to show me the way nor pave the way. I’m the one who corrected myself, refined myself, taught myself and finally decided to do for self.
Plenty of people think I’m cocky, arrogant, not humble nor appreciative. But, when I look back the only thing I appreciate is myself for my determination and willingness. This is the reason why I speak the way I do or do the things I do. Sure GOD played a part but he was the silent partner as there were plenty of years where I only called on myself. I only found GOD by looking back and realizing something was looking out for me because there were plenty of times I prevailed when I should’ve failed.
So while many people will confuse how I say and what I say for arrogance I know it actually comes from living through it and building through it and what you see is my confidence. A Man is judged by what he went through not what he says he is willing to do. Everyone wants to be rich but how many will actually go and get it! And, I still have a long way to go but I’m CONFIDENT I’ll make myself wealthy too.
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Damn bro!
You know it’s crazy man it’s almost like God just sat back and sprinkled when he had to. He seen you weren’t the one of many who pray and ask and plead and beg. I’m surprised you ain’t call this The Core because what you described right there is that feeling that says “Naw fuck that I’m gonna get this done.” Whenever I’ve asked for input for my ideas, they usually got watered down a bit because through foolishly seeking that helping hand, I inadvertently lost confidence in my own ability to produce. That drive is what keeps people off the jobs and in the lab.
Keep building bro
You build a momentum once you decide that it’s all you. Sure there are negatives to never asking anyone for help but they all disappear with each accomplishment. At the end you stand alone and unique. Sure people naturally hate the person who they think is a big liar because how many people can be subjected to hell and make heaven. But, in the end you made yourself and that is a very powerful insight into yourself. Who would return to average when they know they are great?
Once you know it’s in you then you don’t look for too many things outside of you.
Yea I hate when you accomplish something and then someone says “you need to thank God for blessing you.” I think to myself, first, how do you know I even believe in God? Second, if God did help, then he helped by laying out a road that led to an opportunity but he didn’t just give it to me. I had to go get it.
Or they’ll say something like you need to appreciate all those who helped you on the way. I believe that there are only a few sets of people who truly help any of us “on our way.” Some family, a few friends and maybe a few associates. But its funny how people will intimate that the whole world was on your side when coming up.
The reality is, unless a person is a trust fund baby or in some way tied to money, they probably had to work hard to gain any level of success they have.
I feel you. Folks don’t want to work to build these days and want shortcuts..then hate when a real cat build something of his own and his own man. I find it funny folks hate on rich folks, but can’t pay their bills.
My fave..last week I was talking to a coworker about working out and new year’s resolutions. This dude was so mad that I’m eating healthy and still on my workout goal. He gives all the excuses why he fell off his resolution. Now he whines about his body all the time. And disses me everyday on working out. I make sure to eat extra healthy everytime I see him in the break room. Haters stay on the sidelines when you’re building something of value. What do I look like co-signing him?
You inspire me man. People always tried to make me feel like something was wrong with me because I’ve always been independent, and unwilling to kiss ass or play bitch ass games for a check.
Freemane, What it is? How about some credit for inspiring the book? jk, my dude, lol
Seriously though – Building from the ground up is a tough and daunting task. There is a steep learning curve, a plethora of hard work, time legalities, regulations, and blessings etc just to build the foundation. But the reward can be bliss!!!
Ppl who have never built anything or on the path to build anything will never understand your disposition
word !
People know they are never going to move from where they stand in life to be something greater, so to make themselves content with that or to justify why their life aint about shit, they say those code words: arrogant, cocky, not apprecative when talking about somebody who’s really gettin it. It’s like a defense mechanism for suckas!
@McD85 – Yeah, that don’t get too big headed because GOD did it and not you shit is something I struggle with too. Like you said GOD paved the way but I had to walk it. So I thank GOD for the opportunity but I know I had to square myself up to that road and deal with whatever came.
People help but not the help that was the reason. I thank all the people who made my tough times bearable by being a rest stop in my own game but surely after that short break I was back to digging out of hell.
To me it’s all that fake shit where the Kat thanks everyone but himself. Gives credit to everyone else for their help no matter how insignificant. I know this aint’t the PG way to write this post but it’s how I feel. People who know me and knew me know how I was going at this game. They all thought I was crazy. So I don’t know too many people who help crazy.
@AH – Since so many won’t subject theirselves to it they want the one who does to bow down to their lame ass. That bothers me too.
So you in the gym building yourself up and you got people on the side bullshitting with that negative reinforcement. Bruh, even haters take credit for your success. They think even by giving you a hard time it motivated you when in reality you pushed despite them.
@Sid – Welcome – Bruh, just be yourself and you won’t have any regrets. Suckers are trying to satisfy everyone else but theirselves. I try to leave everyone alone and do my thing as my mission doesn’t include them. So I don’t like playing the game either.
But, you have to know if you don’t want to play the game then you’d better be about creating your own. That’s the rule when not taking these handouts.
@RR – Always credit to RR for asking the question that sparked the book. In fact I’ll put your name in the reprint.
I never really ask them to understand as that’s like me understanding how a kat grew up in Switzerland. But, it does bother me that I have to constantly fight that I’m not like the rest of them. I don’t complain, I don’t try to rub shoulders and I don’t try to build with the devil. So for a lot of people they think it can’t be done. So you get hate from what they thought was impossible that you are the living possibility.
@NE – WORD!
@Black – Welcome – I agree with the defense mechanism. That’s why your accomplishments should be kept to yourself and your immediate family as those who didn’t see you come up usually are waiting for you to fall down.
It’s all part of the game. As you learn to just handle your business and control the destructive part of you that wants to put a mfer in their place. It’s tough and I still deal with it myself.