Scared 4-U
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You got to love the people who love you but sometimes they get scared for you. When I left across country to move to NY I had my brother telling me I was running from something in life, my sister telling me I was making a mistake and my other brother thinking I’m just fvcking stupid. The brother who thought I was stupid called my company La Corporation from a TV movie called Kingpin on NBC a while back. It was about a Mexican family making money off of cocaine and trying to be legitimate. Either way I remember feeling like everyone was against me and even trying to put me down. But, truth be told they were all scared for me because I wasn’t scared at all as I said fvck it and drove east in a Uhaul to Baltimore.
Every time a situation or move I”m contemplating comes up my same siblings like to tell me how stupid I am. I laugh at it now because I know they just don’t see what I see. This time what makes it even more funny is I’ve lived and learned so much that I don’t consider this next move to be that big but more of an adjustment. So maybe I have to take 3 steps back to go forward but who cares I know how all the pieces of this puzzle fit together. But, it doesn’t stop them from lecturing me on the dangers of my proposed route. It doesn’t stop the HARSH language that is used on a Man that they think might just be fvcking up the company I built. It doesn’t stop the worry that manifests about them thinking I might not be able to endure the politics and bullshit of readjusting my life. It doesn’t stop them telling me all the dangers of going back in and coming out of it again.
I know you are saying damn Freeman don’t they believe you already? Nope they don’t and that’s why I am glad to have them around because no matter how much money I make they will still look at me like the brother who just got lucky. They still go through all of my plans checking for miscalculations. My brother sends me jobs that I would qualify for if/when I fail. My sister prepares me to be humble and accepting without losing my self esteem. My other brother wants to make sure I don’t turn to Alcohol to cope with my possible failure. But, all of these people prepare me and actually make my plans even more trump tight.
They are scared for me because most of the time they know I’m going anyway. The only thing they have learned is when I say this is what I’m going to do they know I won’t be talked out of it. So they now do the things that I never do anymore and that’s prepare for my eventual failure. When I first started the business I had like 20 failure plans but now I know so much more that I am building in a more secure fashion. I take it all as a compliment now as I see them covering my backside so I can stay on top no matter what. I guess I’m lucky to have so many people who are scared for me when I am no longer scared to build!
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I too have everyine afraid for me, the way I see it is great they can be afraid and can boldly move forward!
Well success doesn’t mean that people don’t notice the dangers ahead of you for you. Its good to know people are looking out for you based off no gain of their own. Sometimes it’s harsh and if you don’t have your mission focused you might think they are coming against you. But, its the same no matter the day or time you walk away from what everyone else can see.
I think cats think people will truly back them on their mission. No one understands and what they understand is what the plantation has provided. So to them you are letting go of all that security of being under the Master. They are scared for you because they are scared to do it theirselves.
I think it’s just motivation to me. I have so many people that tell me to settle down these days and accept the stat quo or protest. Whether find someone to marry just to marry and have kids or my fave “be happy with your part-time job at least you have something.” “Something is better than nothing.” You just don’t know how many of these convos I’ve had this month alone. Cats want to scare you like Halloween all the time. What if a person don’t want to dress up and play trick or treat anymore? I’m tired of being scared of ghosts. That’s their fear, not mine. I relistened to your Superman podcast last night and couldn’t stop laughing about how right you are about fear, ghosts, superheroes, imaginary things to this chip chase. I hear it so much these days..I’m just motivated to get $1 million to shut folks up.
You just got to realize you’re doing something very few understand. They want you to be thankful when you just consider this what has to be done until the big thing cracks.Those who want to be something in life don’t fall into the same schedule as everyone else. So the marriage, kids, 401k and grand canyon vacation ain’t real for us.
You know more than the majority of people now so all they can do is give you some halloween shit to scare you. But, we all know it’s fake. So stay on point and build and you can sell halloween shit to them next year!
Ive noticed that sometimes, especially if you have a good idea, ppl try to knock it more that support it. Im at mindset where Im like, either you gone block or get out the way, u dig….
Is there a healthy fear of letting go and leaping?
Also got to remember that, Success has enemies, and some of them are right next to ya(been around your whole life). So fear can sometimes be mistaken for other unkind emotions
This is so true. When I was leaving my wife they said dont do it. Work it out. So what people do x,y,z thats part of it. Im like b.s. Then when I packed my shit and went out of state. people say dont do it. you only have enough money for 6 months. what happens when it runs out. what if you dont find a job. you ahvent finished school yet. Im like damn. What is everyone afraid of. I fee like they want me to live the life they never had. and Im like that aint my life. I want the money and power.
@Roy – It’s everyone’s first devilish response to see what’s wrong with you before they see what’s right with you. It’s natural to be fearful of the unknown but what choice do you have really when you’re stuck? You hit the nail on the head by pointing out fear can sometimes be mistaken for other unkind emotions. Sometimes the way people express fear is through a angry response. Just like a parent using a deterrent to scold a child it’s done out of love but it sure doesn’t feel like it.
@Anubis – They think they are telling you something you haven’t already planned for and that’s why it can be mistaken for not believing in you. But, truth be told they are just scared and think you might be irrational at a certain time or triggered by a certain event. Sometimes that event is the kick in the butt you need to get in gear in life. For me it was Investors Business Daily making me go through 4 interviews just to tell someone their paper will be delivered tomorrow. I walked out of there and said my life ain’t going to be this way. So I was resolute and thought whatever the fvck I have to endure I am willing because anything is better than this.
What scares them is that you have made a decision that is set in stone and you are willing to take on whatever comes down that road. To most people who play it safe that’s a hell of a stand! So it’s scary to watch anyone who is that resolute in life!
Groupon (GPRN ) is up 30%, first day trading, mane I missed it
There will be another! Plus you can wait for it to come down a bit then jump back in on it. Until they come up with a rival to Groupon then that stock should keep going up.
I’m sure in the beginning, when you first set out to do for self, you probably listened to them. Maybe even took it in a little bit and let it sit on your conscious. Was there ever a time you were shook by what someone close to you said to the point were you seriously rethought your plan? What does it feel like when you opened your first self-sustainable business? I’m on the path to get there and I’m curious how you celebrated that milestone.
Well my mother said go with what you think because you only live once. So what my brothers said only made me think they don’t know anything because they never left LA anyway. Truth be told I didn’t care about too much as I never second guessed what I was doing. I quit my job and literally caught the bus from Inglewood to Downtown LA then caught the greyhound bus to Vegas to get a truck from Vegas and drove it all the way back. Uhaul gave me a helluva deal since they needed trucks on the East Coast.
When I finally opened up shop I had a telemarketing job at night part time and I had saved for about a year. So opening up shop for me was a time of being super nervous. I lifted weights 3 times a day morning, noon and night and ended up losing about 45 lbs in fat and turned into lean muscle. I was so focused that I never stopped to think about that I opened up shop. I had walked away from so much that I was focused on getting to the money of it. Probably 6 months later is when I really looked out the window and thought I did it. But, that was short lived as I had money to make.
The goal wasn’t necessarily to open up shop it was to make money. So when I started making money and paid my car, school loans and even paid my family in presents and freedom did I think I made it. I never rethought my plan because I didn’t plan for another way. I had to get out of being stuck behind others mawfvckers who wanted me to wait. So I went all out and was willing to do everything and anything. Shit man I came that far from sleeping on floors and roaches trying to jump in my food from the ceiling… the last thing I paid attention to was celebrating that I made it. As far as I was concerned I was in the game and I wasn’t going to fail!
That’s funny, just the other day my dad actually gave me a lecture on how starting my own business was bad, all of the things that could go wrong and how it was unrrealistc and stupid.
All of this comming after I said I was having a friend over to teach me about photography and using it in videos.
Surprisingly, I didn’t get mad or hurt by it. Like you said it made me want to check on everything to see if
I’m on the up and up.
Plus I understood that he was coming out of a place of love, he doesn’t want me fail and get hurt… But sometimes you have to just man up and do for self
It’s natural for those who know you to watch out for you. It’s just when you are extending yourself into new fields for you and them that they sometimes want to discourage you. But, they discourage because they don’t see how it fits but it’s your vision. The best way to take it is exactly how you said it and that’s it’s coming from a true place of concern. Your job is to take the warning and double check your double check so you can say you thought of everything you happen to know at this moment. The rest is learning on the job and who can prepare for the unknown.
See with black people I don’t care what they usually – I am full black. Black people, especially family – will not support positive business ownership without the help of a white boss or as Tariq Nasheed coined “White Daddy”. As soon as you talk about doing some N shit. They down for it and have all kinds of excuses.
It seems that you’re ‘the quarterback’ as well.
@PY – C’mon bruh it’s not just a Black thing as it’s a common story for anyone who strikes out on their own. The N shit as you say is usually what the N’s can understand so why wouldn’t they back it. If you say you’re going to start your own lottery they’d say you’re crazy but if you said you were going to start a numbers racket they would right? It’s the same thing but the words they understand is the more criminal way as the criminal way is always simple.
Also, please don’t spell out the N-word on this site as you will go to spam and I don’t want that word on this site. Thanks
@UBJ – Those with vision will always have nonbelievers who can’t see. It’s part of the game for sure.