Runaways
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When times get tough a lot of cats feel the need to get up and move. You might see a cat going through a emotional withdrawal from a woman, this recession or just sheer boredom think it’s time to shake it up a bit. But, what these cats never think about is it could be them and its a internal problem.
If a cat came to LA and said he was bored I would say cool maybe it ain’t your flavor. If the same cat moved to NY and said the same thing I would probably think maybe you need to move to Hong Kong. If the same cat moved to Miami and again came back bored I would just say hey bruh it might just be you. Most of the time its the sign of a cat not participating in what the world has to offer. Sure some places are more boring than others but that’s usually because cats aren’t interacting with people. They thought their life was going to be something they saw on TV and found out its the same TV show whether you are in LA or Albuquerque. It’s the people you meet in this life that make things more interesting and no matter what is being offered by a city if you’re around some boring cats it’ll make the whole city look like shit.
When I first started traveling I thought each city was better than home. But, when I got there I found out I’d rather be home. So I had to shift my thinking and start to enjoy the city for what it is. People always ask me how does a city compare to LA and I say LA is LA and (insert city here) I’m trying to enjoy it for what it is. Some cities are more outdoors, some cities are more about flossing, some cities are about real money and some are truly boring. But, if you have some good folks around you you’ll enjoy them.
A lot of cats runaway thinking the city will change them when they get there. But, the city is what it is and the problem is the cat running doesn’t know his own problems. If the same reason for leaving keeps coming up wherever you are then most likely it’s you. TV has a lot of you cats thinking you’re missing a party but truthfully your lame ass wouldn’t go in the new city either. Life can be lived and is lived all over this world and some people are having a hell of a time. You on the other hand think it’s time to run even though everyone you walk by is drinking it all in.
Just like a little kid who leaves home thinking anywhere is better. You’ll find out after wasting a lot of years that you are the lame in this scenario. You had money to enjoy what was offered and somehow you never did. What do you think these cities are a vacation resort?
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Interesting that you mentioned women because I’m at that part of the game myself. I get up, go to work everyday, come home and repeat. To a certain extent I’m cool with that, knowing I just need to dig a little deeper to find where the puzzle pieces connect to make self-sustaining chips. My girl, by most regards, is at least an 8-9: she’s got a bachelor’s in mass comm, works out religiously, is hard-working and even has a side hustle. She supportive of the different things I do and for all intents and purposes is a ride-or-die chick.
Sometimes I’m thinking I should pull up stakes and move around (without her) to see if that puts any spin on my game but as you said, it’s not where I go, it’s what I do. What’s your take on relationships while trying to build an empire? It’s not like she’s trying to stand in my way but I’m just not interested in doing the family life thing until I get my dough right.
Getting up and moving around to see what’s out there is alright but you don’t need to drop her to do that. A lot of cats have good women next to them but they forsake them thinking something better is around the corner. Sometimes you got it right the first time.
Family life thing is a poor man’s mentality. Since you think having kids and being married will slow down your chips and your life you wonder if it’s a negative. Truthfully rich people have kids too and they can provide for them and raise them to be Kings too. So if you have a good woman who is on the ball and on your team then you have a good chance of doing both. We have to stop thinking in a poor man’s way of always wondering if these fake obstacles will stop us from being successful. Yes, having children will make life more busy but it won’t stop the Hustle, in fact it might make it even stronger and focused.
The truth of the matter is if you have the right person rolling with you you’ll get the empire a lot faster. So marriage, family life and children are a addition to the man who has the right woman next to him. I made a podcast about this a long time ago. Check it out http://bit.ly/qUYHzm
@Miles. Since being with her has your life been better? Also..is she humble or materialistic? Also…can you see yourself with her for the rest of your life? I agree with Freeman…the right person with you is an asset. The wrong one…they’ll have the empire and you’ll be paying them. I also think you shouldn’t waste each other’s time if you’re not trying to building something together. If you think you and her can really build something great together…jump the broom.
@R&G..I agree to a point about environment. I’m in a boring dying place that loves the stat quo. Cats always miserable, sad, and bitter about everything. But lately I’ve been meeting folks talking forward and progressive and doing it. I have to keep moving forward…else I die like the rest. But I do agree with you about exploring your environment too…meet folks, conversate, and live life. The person has to decide on his place in this world.
Thanks for the perspectives, fellas. And the link Freeman. It’s difficult thinking in a ‘we’ as I’ve always imagined the grind a solitary one. Funny thing is, both our families have some sort of business going on between real estate, apartments and start ups. Maybe it’s just fear of not being adequate enough but I’m working on it. The idea of kids right now is crazy but if it does happen I want to be in a position to shed a real light on life instead of the ‘sucka’ point of view.
@AH My life has been infinitely better since being with her.She’s easily one of the best people I know, nevermind dated. It seems like my whole family has indoctrinated her to the clan and they’ve never even met her except my dad and he concurs (we live in a different state than both our families). Perhaps it’s time I stop bucking the obvious and realize what I have before I don’t. You’ve both given me something to think about. Thanks again guys!
@AH – So many people live in a nice city and they never did any of the big stuff to do. So I made sure I did damn near everything in LA. I did the same in NY, Miami, DC, San Francisco. When I mean everything I mean I went to the ZOO too in Richmond Heights when I visited Miami. So I make sure I do everything, eat everything and live what’s offered of that city.
There are people who only see bad and they will die miserable and there are people who only see good and they’ll die happy. I’ve seen enough miserable in my life that I don’t want no parts of that shit. So whenever I am anywhere I enjoy the people and enjoy the times I am there. Shit I could be dead tomorrow! So I chose to address my own demons as nothing is wrong with the city there’s more than likely something wrong with me.
@Miles – The angle is yours because no one can see the empire but you. The road can be shared with people who just want to see you do well. When you meet someone in your life who will sacrifice who they are and what they want for you it’s not to be taken lightly. Most people don’t love you in this life make sure you appreciate those who actually do.
I had to run away. Like you said its not b/c one place is better than the other. I’m doing if for better opportunities. I don’t go out enough to say if a city is fun or boring now. Im sacrificing all of that time going out to better myself. So when I do it in the future I dont have to worry about spending money that I have to use to get a bite to eat.
Im in my mid to late 20s now. But when I was in my early to mid 20s I done it all. I done it so much that going to the club and hanging out until the sunrise got boring. I was like is this it. Is this is all what life has to offer. If this the case then life sucks. That was part of the reason I settled down. Thought I done everything life had to offer.
I went back and listent to the 30 and over podcast. I almost became one of those dudes. I was almost dead.
We all think about getting away for opportunity. As long as we aren’t thinking this other city will make us it’s cool with me. I hit the East still West Coastin as I was there to make money not to turn into some East Coast Cat. I went there thinking this is where the money is and I’m going to get my damn money. So I ended up going from Brooklyn to Jersey City to Newark and then back to Manhattan. Butt, while I was in NY I enjoyed NY for what it was and not for what it wasn’t.
See you hit the same wall I did after I did everything I thought the next logical step was too get married. But, I never did primarily because most of the women I knew wouldn’t make a good wife or mom and I wasn’t going to have my kid all fvcked up in this life. So instead I refocused on my mission and let the opportunities take me wherever it may go.
I’m glad you woke up homie. The reason why most of those cats are dead is because they don’t have a MAN SIZED MISSION instead they have a Suckers story about doing nothing but mowing lawns. It’s in us to be CONQUERORS not the cat building hobby cars in the damn garage doing what we think every other cat should be doing. There’s a real opportunity to have it all and we should be going for it everyday. I resigned my whole life to living that life of conquering everything and building that empire. So I think I’m going to have it all… the LIFE, the WIFE and the EMPIRE!
That hit home right there Freeman. Reminds me of the time I went to TX to pursue “business opportunity” based on a friends account and not my own research and intuition. Turns out I drained out my money within a year and choose to instead of living in poverty with no plan, put my pride aside and move back in with Moms. It is a strain mentally but at least I gained independence so that when I bounce from the nest again I’ll atleast have a well thought out strategy that is MINE and no one elses destiny.
People think I am harsh to their angles but just like you been burned running with other cats. So I learned to handle my business and run my angles by myself. It’s good to have a place to fall back to just in case it doesn’t work out. So now we just regroup, make sure we plan things out and never follow another cat again. Everything takes time bruh and you’ll be back out running again. It’s better to admit fault, lose fast and make the adjustments to come back. Just make sure when you do blow up you take care of Moms and reward her for the faith she had in you when no one else did.
Thats real Free! Just like you said in your old post, about shittin on your family, they could have left me high and dry but choose to support me during the darkest moments.I;m hella grateful for that! Oh yeah best believe Mom dukes gonna be decked out. I mean she’s doing very well for her self but she still deserves it.
Hey, it’s better to be the man that tried and failed than the man who never tried. You took your chance and I’m sure your mother respects that. But, I am sure she doesn’t want you to stay there forever. So dust yourself off and take whatever opportunity you have in front of you to be on your own two again. From that point you can start to build your empire.
Everything you do is a reflection of her so when you fall as long as you don’t stay there I am sure she is proud of you. You want to prove to her that what she instilled in you will manifest into a strong Man! The money and everything else is just the rewards of the Hustle!