If at First…
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If at first you don’t succeed stop complaining like a bitch and be a Man! I know you thought I was going to say the regular Sucker way and say try try again but that’s implied. No one hears the complaints of a grown ass man so unless you are dying then you need to keep it to yourself. A lot of you cats feel you can fail and people will pat you on the back and say good try. A lot of you cats think you are in elementary school and you are learning how to write within the lines. A lot of you cats bake in failure so much that when you do you shrug your shoulders like it’s to be expected. Truth be told it just shows you are a weakling and when you start anything people will get the impression that you will fail. Primarily because the first thing you think about success is how you are going to handle failure.
When I was a teenager I remember this girl I was dating told me “The only excuses in life are the ones you give yourself!” Now she told me this when I was about sixteen years old and I thought she just read a book or something. Only years later did I realize the angle she presented. I sat back in college thinking and looking at just about every cat around me and hearing them doubt theirselves and look for someone to feel sorry for their position. When they talked about approaching a woman they already baked in their angle the woman wouldn’t like them. In fact just about everyone I was around made an excuse as to why things weren’t working out.
I just decided that I was going to stop making excuses for anything that happened. When I think about a business I don’t think about it not succeeding. When I approach a woman I don’t think she might not like me. If at first I don’t succeed then I just chalk it up to the game but you won’t hear me say some stupid shit like try try again! It’s not like I ignore failure or reality but I don’t self medicate myself by giving myself and excuse to fail. A lot of you young cats have a backup plan that if you fail this class you’ll take it over in summer. If you don’t get this girl they’ll be another one coming. A whole hell of a lot of you lie to yourself about tomorrow being a better day. I just didn’t want to be the cat who keeps saying failure is alright because it’s not and I should If at first I don’t succeed… don’t even say that kind of shit out of my mouth.
If at first you don’t succeed.. FAILURE may be your Style! I just never want to make Failure my Style!
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Amen. I feel you on this one. Lately I’ve been working on outgrowing that mentality. For me it comes from growing up poor. Like some guilt for wanting to be rich, but had to hide it and accept less in order to make others happy. And the typical “Money is the root of all evil”. Poverty of mind and dealing with broke mfs will make you doubt yourself. You’re right..I gotta get out of this slump and get failure out my thoughts and words. Being broken is lame. Time to upgrade my style. Pity play clothes have got to go.
It’s the mentality of a teenager so all of us have to crawl out of it. This is the same speech I give to my own nephew as he is blaming everyone for his laziness. A lot of cats think of their hustles so low that they bake it in that when I fail at least people will know that I tried! No one will ever be able to say I didn’t try. WTF! This chip game we are in doesn’t hand out medals to cats for participating as this ain’t the special olympics.
It’s simple just take the losses like a man and sooner or later you’ll stop losing because you hate the feeling.
Hey Freeman!
Love this post. I stopped telling people what my goals were, so I could train myself to stop complaining. I also find that ppl say a lot of bs things, when things don’t work out that I’m really not trying to hear, i.e. like you said.
People with a poverty mindset forget that life is an endurance race, and if you focused more on being the best, “failure” wouldn’t even be able to occupy your mind to begin with.
People want an excuse because taking the lumps ain’t for cowards. If a cat would execute without anyone knowing you wouldn’t have to bake in failure in your words. If a cat is fully focused on moving forward the rocks in the road are just irritating not debilitating.
I disagree with you on one thing – someone would know and that’s you. You know when things don’t work out. There really isn’t any consolation and for a limited time some people might be a little pissed off. It is what it is. There’s either results or reasons, and if you don’t have results, there’s really nothing to talk about.
Well most cat’s who know they aren’t on the ball and they are full of shit but they don’t count that. Most Suckers only worry about what others may think of them and that’s why they lie and come up with excuses.
folks do accept defeat gracefully and are content with just trying. I hate when folks tell me at least they tried, business is about ressults what you made happen, not intentions.
It’s easier to accept failure when you bake it in from the beginning. People don’t like to bottom line theirselves and look in the mirror and admit they messed up. But, sooner or later you have to if you want to move forward.